Wednesday, March 15, 2006

Gratefully alive - not the grateful dead - that's a band

Cynics beware, this is going to be a very positive post. I may even come over all "Oprah" on you. And this is no bad thing.

In the last 2 days I have had friends/colleagues experience the following -
a beloved parent having a serious stroke,
a 20 year marriage breaking up and limited access to his son who he adores
a friend whose partner has breast cancer that has spread and now reached her brain and there ain't no drugs for that as yet.

So, this is a "BE HAPPY" post.

So you feel grumpy that there is no more instant coffee when you get to work - BE HAPPY - it was lousy anyway so go out and get a real one !
So your job isn't what you'd like it to be - chill out or do something about it - whining and whinging is not the way to go.
So you are not dating Paris Hilton (this for SC especially) well, you'll just have to date someone who doesn't use the words "so hot" in every sentence. Quel dommage !

I hope I don't sound too self righteous but there is much that we do have, and we so rarely recognise it. I have a colleague who was head girl of her school ( a few years ago now) and, when I was feeling a bit low, she shared with me a speech she wrote when she went back to speech night (like graduation for high school) and addressed her old alma mater.

She talked about constantly seeking out new challenges in all aspects of your life and appreciating everyone you meet - that we all have something worthwhile to contribute (OK, OK maybe not those folk dealing hard drugs to minors ). And, in the very short time I have been blogging, it has opened my eyes to a whole new world of other people's perspectives and also, how kind and encouraging complete strangers can be.

May you recognise the wonderful things you have and appreciate them, because you cannot count on them always being there.

With warmest thoughts to those folk who are managing their way through tough times.

mummified - be satisfied


SC said...

LOL. I wouldn't go out with Paris Hilton if you paid me. I'm far too good for her. Just look at my picture. :)

Well said though Mummified. There's always someone worse off than we are.

Tea and Books, etc said...

I stand rebuked. :'-(

Dead on, Mummified. :-)

Tea and Books, etc said...


Meant to send my profound well wishes and sympathies to your friends and colleagues for what they are suffering.

mummified said...

hmm, I didn't mean to rebuke anyone. honest injun. just to remind myself, as much as anything, how lucky I am

mummified said...

Hey SC, stop frightening the horses. but yeah, I accept your point about Paris. You are too good for her. Besides, I very much doubt she would understand very much of your blog - and it isn't just the generation gap - you being so young and all

Die Muräne said...

cool post, mummified.
I just had 3 of the hardest events of my whole life in only a few months. A wonder that i'm still standing and i'm thankfull for that!!
It made many things less important.

mummified said...

yes DM, it does, doesn't it.

The Phosgene Kid said...

Sorry to hear about your friends. Bad things happen to good people, sad as it is.

I am battling depression (hard to believe, eh?) and attended a group. In a twisted sort of way it helped. One look at some of the basket cases in the group and by comparison I felt loads better. Never went back.

mummified said...

Listen PK - depression is a normal state in our crazy, mixed up world. Everything is so fluid these days, morals, values, who you are, who you should be, career, family etc etc...
Be the best you can be and that includes being kind to yourself and others. Eat well, sleep well, stay in the moment and try not to worry about the future. The future takes care of itself. (crikey, I just read what I wrote, I do carry on sometimes...)

The Phosgene Kid said...

Who si the Belgian kid in the first comment?